Saturday, October 18, 2008

DIRTY LAUNDRY - WARNING!!!!!....lots of whining going on here!!!!

I am normally not a very negative person. Or one that likes to air all of my "dirty laundry" but considering I don't have many readers, I am sure it is OK to vent to myself! {{{BLUSH}}}

Today has just been one of those days. I am tired. Both physically and mentally. I just feel like here lately nothing I do is good enough. I bust my butt at work, yet I still feel very overwhelmed with the workload that I have. I constantly feel like my inbox is ALWAYS larger then my outbox.

Then I come home and look around at my messy, unorganized house wondering why my house was the only one on the block that got hit by the tornado. Only to find myself feeling overwhelmed once again during my day. Feeling so overwhelmed in fact that I ignore the mess, get online and look at all of your beautifully decorated and clean homes in blogland. Wishing mine was one of them...but feeling absolutely no motivation to do it.

And did I mention I am the Mother of TWO teenagers. A 17 and a 15 year old. I think this is where most of the disappointment within myself is stemming from lately. It just seems that here lately, the relationships between my kids, my husband and myself feels SO strained. And I am not even sure why. I know we are all busy with work and school...but that is NO excuse!! Not to mention this constant worry that I feel that in 10 months our daughter will be leaving for college and I want to make sure our relationship is on solid ground. Even though, I feel anything but that at the moment.

Not that I have terrible teens. They both are GREAT kids!! They both get awesome grades. They are both very responsible (other than around the house). And they both have big hearts (they are just hidden in those teenage egos at the moment). Nor is our relationship "tarnished" at all. I know deep down we all truly love one another but I guess I am feeling sorry for myself because I feel like they want to spend more time with their friends, etc. then with their Father or I. And that hurts.

We both try to do everything we can for them. But at times (especially a lot here lately) we are starting to feel a lack of respect or appreciation from either one of our teens. We are getting smarts mouths and disrespect. I know, I know...their are teenagers!!! BUT how much is too much?? When do you know things are getting too out of hand??

Don't get me wrong ...I LOVE MY KIDS WITH ALL OF MY HEART!!!!!!! I guess I just wish at times , I felt that they loved me back. That sounds really bad doesn't it??

I know I am the Mom. I am the adult. I should be wise enough to know they will someday out grow this...but when!?!?!?! I feel that I have limited time left with them before they leave to go to college, etc. and that I am running out of precious time with them. Does that make sense??

I know I am probably just feeling sorry for myself. Woe is me!! That or I am PMSing!! Honestly, probably a little of BOTH!!!! But I just feel that I have all of this hats to wear...a wife, a Mother, etc. and I am not doing very well at any of them. That I am just "getting by" in all of the roles . And that makes me sad....

But then I sit here and feel bad or guilty for even complaining. I have a job...in this time of economic crisis. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and our children. I have a beautiful home (even though it is a pigsty at the moment) and even though I haven't been feelin' the love. I know that my kids do love me and appreciate me. But somedays, I just need a hug too!!!!!

So with saying all this...I ask all of you Moms. How do you handle all of your roles? How do you balance work and home? Do you ever feel even thru all of your attempts to get your juggling act going, at any moment you are ready to drop one of the balls??

Any advice or suggestions welcome...the way I see it, us Moms have to stick together. Because I don't know about you but I never got the instruction book!! LOL!!

Friday, October 10, 2008

Food For Thought Friday

BEST. LASAGNA. EVER...ALL I NEED TO SAY!!



Ingredients

Sauce
2 cups canned, diced tomatoes
2 cups tomato sauce
1 cup water
1/2 cup onions, diced
1/2 cup green bell peppers, diced
2 cloves garlic, diced
1/4 cup chopped, fresh parsley leaves
11/2 teaspoons Italian Seasoning
11/2 teaspoons The Lady's House Seasoning, recipe follows
1 1/2 teaspoons seasoning salt
1 1/2 teaspoons sugar
2 bay leaves
1 1/2 pounds ground beef

Other
6 to 9 Long strips lasagna noodles
12 ounces cottage cheese, mixed with 1 beaten egg and 1/2 cup Parmesan
1 cup Gruyere cheese, grated
1 cup Swiss cheese, grated
2 cups cheddar, grated
1 (8-ounce) package cream cheese
1 cup mozzarella, grated

Directions
To make the sauce, in a stockpot, combine the tomatoes, tomato sauce, water, onions, peppers, garlic, parsley, seasoning mixtures, sugar and bay leaves. Bring to a boil, then reduce the heat and simmer, covered, for 1 hour. Crumble the ground beef in a saucepan. Cook until no pink remains, then drain off the fat. Add the ground beef to the stockpot. Simmer for another 20 minutes. While the sauce simmers, cook the pasta according to the package directions (if sauce is too thin, for your taste, you can thicken it up at this time by mixing 1 tablespoon of cornstarch and a 1/4 of a cup of cold water. Bring sauce back to a boil. Stir in cornstarch mixture, stirring constantly). Remove bay leaves.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
To assemble lasagna, place a thin layer of sauce in the bottom of a 9 by 13 by 2-inch pan. Layer 1/3 of each, noodles, cottage cheese mixture, Gruyere, Swiss and cheddar cheeses. Pinch off small pieces of cream cheese and dot over other cheeses. Add another layer of sauce. Repeat layering 2 to 3 times ending with sauce. This may be covered and refrigerated at this point. Bake for 20 minutes. Remove from oven and top with mozzarella and continue to bake for another 10 to 15 minutes. Note: If lasagna has been refrigerated, bake for 40 minutes total.

House Seasoning
1 cup salt
1/4 cup black pepper
1/4 cup garlic powder
Mix ingredients together and store in an airtight container for up to 6 months.
Yield: 1 1/2 cups

Courtesy of my girl....Paula Deen!!