Good Day Turns To...Ummm, Not So Good Day!!

Do you all ever have one of those days where it starts out good and then BOOM all heck breaks loose?!?!?

Well, today was one of the days for me. I woke up this morning feeling a HUGE relief because my test results came back with the A-OK. BTW, thanks to all that left the warm wishes!!

But then my daughter proceeds to tell me that her ex-boyfriend's Aunt left her a VERY nasty comment on Facebook. You see, my 18 YO daughter and her boyfriend of a year just broke up a few weeks ago. Well, since then his ADULT Aunt has been leaving her nasty comments anytime she updates her status. Which, my husband and I am pretty much ignored because we like the ex and his parents. We have no hard feelings towards them and I hope they feel the same about us. Even though, Katelyn was the one that broke up with him...they are being very civil to one another.

But after the VERY nasty comment she left in Katelyn's page last night (which let me add she deleted after the ex yelled at her for leaving) I LOST it. The Mama Bear in my came out. The only way I knew to get ahold of the Aunt was to send her an email through Facbook, so that was what I did. A very nice email telling her that I didn't appreciate the comment she left on my daughters page and that the break up has been hard on both of them but as the adults I think we all should stay out of it and let them sort things out between themselves. The next thing I know she leaves me a nasty reply and basically said that my daughter was lying, etc. And denied leaving the comment. Are you freaking kidding me!?!?!?

I was being VERY nice and trying to handle things maturely. Well, let me just say after reading that I lost my temper I then blasted her and told her that if she was a big enough woman to leave the nasty comment on my 18 YO daughters page and call her the names that she did that she should be a big woman to admit it and deal with the consequences.

Funny thing is though, even though she deleted the comment it still shows on my daughters cell phone since she has Facebook on it.

So, do you all think I overreacted? Or would you have down the same thing?

I have been trying so hard lately to try to be a better christian, etc. (which BTW, I have tried a new church and I LOVE it) and I know God doesn't like ugly. BUT as a Mother, I felt the need to protect my baby!! Am I wrong?

Busy Weekend...Busy Post and some MUCH Needed Advice!!

Hello Ladies!! I hope you all are having nice and relaxing Memorial Day weekend!!

Ours was wonderful. Busy but wonderful!! I actually got a jump start on my weekend a day early. Since, we had our daughter's High School Graduation last Thursday and we had planned on leaving to go camping Friday as soon as "Muscles" and "Big Daddy" got off of school and work. I took a vacation day to try to get e few things finished up Friday morning.

So, after "Miss Priss" and I took "Muscles" to school (or should I say...he took us. He got his driving permit last week so I let him drive. He is a pretty good driver!!)we headed to Wal-Mart to do some shopping for groceries, etc. that we needed for our camping trip. Then after bringing the stuff home and putting it away, I decided to take "Miss Priss" to lunch since she wasn't coming with us camping and so I could spend a little time with her.

But let me backtrack to the Graduation. OH MY!! It went so smoothly. Like I said in my previous post, I was SO proud of my baby girl!! So, was "Big Daddy". I think I even saw a tear or two!! And they weren't ALL from me...LOL!!

Seriously, where did the time go though?!?!? Like I have said too many times before....it felt like it was just yesterday I was giving birth to that 7 lb. 15 oz. bundle of joy. OK...I am gonna stop before I cry even more. But here is a pic of ""Miss Priss" and her boyfriend (whom I like but am kinda mad with at the moment...I'll get to that later!!)

So, back to camping...it was such a nice trip. We went to a campground pretty close to home. With it being a holiday weekend we were kinda limited. But we had such a good time. Since, "Miss Priss" decided at the last minute she wasn't able to go with us, another LONG story. We told "Muscles" he could bring his buddy, Ben. Whom, my husband and I both adore. He is such a good kid...

We camped, rode bikes, fished and even made s'mores. You know all the things that go along with camping. I even did a little shopping. We have gone to this particular campground a few times and every time we pass this cute little shop that I have always wanted to stop at. The Crescent Moon. Well, this weekend was the weekend. And was I ever so happy. I was in love the moment I walked it. And the shop owners were two very warm and friendly ladies. I could of spent the whole day in there. But there was fishing to be done, so I tried to hurry. But I did a few things...

Like I said, it was such a nice and relaxing weekend. But of course it would not be a weekend in our house if there wasn't some sort of hiccup(AKA drama).

Well, let me explain something first. Katelyn (AKA "Miss Priss") has been dating the same boy for about 9 months now. And he is a nice enough kid BUT (I know the dreeded BUT) they NEVER want to spend anytime with us. NEVER!!! BUT they are ALWAYS with his family. Whether it being hanging out with his Mom and Step-Dad. Or going to his Dad's softball games. Heck, Katelyn has even met the ENTIRE family....I am talking Aunts, Uncles cousins, etc. on BOTH sides of the family. Yet we can't even get the kid to come over. EVER!!!

We have invited him over for dinner, out to dinner, etc. Heck, we even asked him to go camping with us this past weekend (under the conditions that he and "Muscles" sleep in a tent) And of course we got a big fat "NO!!". He had to work "all day". But yet, we agreed to let Katelyn go on a family vaction with them to Florida this coming 4th of July (which I am SERIOUSLY reconsidering!!!!!).

Anyway, back to my story....so we are camping and all is well. Around 10:00am Saturday morning we get a call from Katelyn. Which, let me tell you is the crack o' dawn for that child!!! So, I am feeling good after her call. Too think that she called just out of the blue made me feel good...like she was missing us. Well, during our phone call conversation I asked her if her and Matt wanted to drive up for the day and hang out with us (It was only 1/2 hour drive and Katelyn knew the way) but she said that it was rainging and that my Mom didn't want her driving. And that Matt had to work "all day" anyway. Which seemed reasonable!!

But you have to know my parents....I love them to death!!! But let's just say that my parents and I have two totally different parenting styles. My Mom thinks Ed and I are too strict. Seriously, they child comes and goes as she pleases. She has a 1:00am curfew and we even agreed to Florida. Are you kidding me!?!?!? But because we worry and care about Katelyn, we rather her not stay by herself while we are gone (out of her on safety) we are hard on her. WHATEVER!!! So, I should of known that whole "driving in the rain" thing was a lie.

Anyway, after our phone call conversation, I admit I was missing her so I called her back around noon whenever "Big Daddy", "Muscles" and Ben were gone fishing. But there was no answer, so I called my parents house and my Mom said that since it was raining (Raining!?!?!? What rain!?!?!?) and she didn't want her coming down there she let her go to the mall and out to lunch with Matt. (Matt!?!?!? I thought he had to work "all day")....so while talking to my Mom Katelyn beeped in. And when I said hello, I can barely hear her with all of the background noise. So, I ask her where they are and she says Eric and Denise's...which happenes to be our good friends and also friends of Matt's Mom and Step-Dad's.

OK...now I am PISSED!!!! No, not pissed....HURT!!!!!!! I thought he had to work?!?!? So, I asked Katelyn that very same question she says..."til noon". ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?!?!?!? I thought one of the reason they didn't come to meet us was because he had to work "all day". OK, I don't classify noon as "all day".

So after basically telling her that once again they ditched us for his family and how HURT I was, I hung up!!! So, I decided if she lied about him working "all day" I bet she AND MY MOM (mind you) lied about the rain so I called my best friend. Sure enough, it hadn't rained at all!!!!!! Just as I thought!!!

I am telling you girls, I was CRUSHED!!!!!!!!! Still am!!!!! She has been at work all day and I have not spoke to her since I hung up on her Saturday. Of course, I received a couple text messages within an hour of hanging up on her telling me that they would come down, etc. but we never did see them!! Go figure!!

So, what do I do!?!?!?!? Nothing my husband or I say gets thru to her anymore. She thinks because she is offically a High School Graduate and "almost" 18 that she should be able to come and go as she pleases with NO rules!!! All we want to is spend time with her (and the BF) and we get pushed aside ALL of the time for everybody and everything else!! And it hurts!!!!

Whenever "Big Daddy" and I try to talk to her she gets an additude and thinks we are being unreasonable. I am tired of fighting all of the time. I am tired of all of the tension. We are the parents....but why do I feel like I am the one being controlled by her!?!?!? I know she is spoiled...and we are the only ones to blame. But how do we make our points to her without coming off as being controlling or mean. Or her wanting to "move out"...oh yeah, that's the new one!!

Seriously, if the only thing she can complain about is us not letting her stay home alone whenever we go camping for the weekend (which is really for her safety more th n anything else) or that we want to spend time with her...then I think we are doing pretty well. So why do I always feel that nothing that my husband and I do is right in her eyes!?!?!?

OK, now I really am going to cry...so I better finish this post up. But I would appreciate any advice ya'll have to offer. Because quite frankly, I am at a lost at this point!!

Hugs!! Carrie

A Milestone...Oh, And A Thank You!!

Thank you everybody for the advice on yesterdays post. I opted not to buy the Prim decor from that lady. She would not budge on the price at all, so I decided not to do it. Which is fine, I was kind of hesitate about spending that kind of $$$ anyway. Especially, with the economy being the way it is. I figured there was more important things I could do with that kind of $$$...like feed my family!! LOL!! But I do appreciate ALL of your advice. I was leaning towards that way anyway but being the girl I am, I still need that reassurance. Even if I am almost 40!! LOL!!

Today is a bittersweet day for me....it is my daughter's High School Graduation!! Gosh, where does that time go!?!? It is bittersweet because I am SOOO happy for her. She is such a wonderful young woman and this is just the next step in her journey. But as a Mother, it breaks my heart to think my babies are no longer babies!! Wasn't it was just yesterday that she was 4 and EJ (AKA "Muscles") was 2 and they were still playing with Barbies and Legos?!?!? And in their eyes, my husband and I were still "cool"!!

You know thru the years I heard over and over "how fast that they will grow up!!" and "savor EVERY moment!!". And trust me I did...BUT gosh, the time went by SOOOO much faster than I thought!! UGGHHH!!

Ok, I better stop before I cry. I am posting from work (which I NEVER do) and I have already had to stop myself from crying SEVERAL times. SERIOUSLY!! I know I am SUCH a baby!! LOL!!

But I hope you all have a GREAT day!! And I will try to stop by later and post some pics.

Hugs!! Carrie

Are You A Mean Mom!?!?!

I received this poem today in an email and I thought it was very fitting being a Mother of TWO teens...

To all you Mean Mom's.

Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
enough to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough to make you go pay for the
bubble gum you had taken and tell the clerk, "I
stole this yesterday and want to pay for it."

I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have
taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect.

I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you
will tell them.

Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the
meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids
ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal,
eggs, and toast. When others had a Pepsi and a
Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. And you
can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and what we were
doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an
hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had
eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really
tough!

Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until
we were 16.

Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all
her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated,
honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean
parents just like Mom was.

I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!

"Muscles"

After looking thru some of my past posts, I realized that I have quite a few posts about "Miss Priss" my 17 YO daughter. But as some of you may already know...I am a Mother of TWO teens!! So today, I would like to introduce you all to my 15 YO son "Muscles"...



He is such a good kid!! Heck, he isn't even a kid...he is such a wonderful young MAN!! He is so warm and caring. Very warm-hearted!! He is an excellent student. He takes all AP classes and excels in them all. He is on his high school's Math and Scholar Bowl teams. He LOVES the outdoors and everything that goes with it...camping, fishing, etc.

For a long time he was so much smaller than the rest of the boys in his class. Heck, even some of the girls. LOL!! But not only has he grown into manhood by his mature personality and additude. But he has physically grown in the past year or so as well. Put it this way, I had taken him to the doctor a few weeks ago and he had literally grown SEVEN inches since the last time he was there!! I KNOW!!! We have had to go clothes shopping numerous times in the past few months!! LOL!!

So these are just a few things about "Muscles" but be on the look out for more post about "Muscles"...because quite frankly, I kinda like this kid!! LOL!!

Peace, Love and Donkeys!!

I know, I know...what in the world do these three things have to do with one another!?!? As some of you may already know, my daughter "Miss Priss" is a Senior this year. And she and our son "Muscles" both attend the same high school that "Big Daddy" and I went to. And for 71 years it has been a tradition for the Senior class to participate in a Donkey Basketball game.

What is a Donkey Basketball game you may be asking!?!? Well, there are about 40 teams of 5. Girls against boys. And they literally play a 2 minute and 30 second basketball game on real life DONKEYS!!! I am not even kidding!! Let's just say that sometime words just can't explain....


This is my daughter's team. Peace, Love and Donkeys. "Miss Priss" is the last one on the far right.


Here is "Miss Priss" boyfriend's team. The Dirty Joes. BF is the second last one from the right.


"Miss Priss" and BF.



"Miss Priss" going in for the score!!

It was SOOO much fun!! And let me just add that girl's really do rule and boy's drool...because the girl's kicked the boy's butts 30 to 28. It was a real nail biter!! LOL!!

The Beverly Hillbillies and Baby Chickens!!

Ok, I know you are probably wondering what in the world does The Beverly Hillbillies have to do with Baby Chickens!!

Well, last night for dinner I decided to try something different for once. Maybe something a little more "refined", if you will, then our normal everyday Hamburger Helper. Don't get me wrong we still love our old faithful HH. Heck, if it wasn't for that "Big Daddy" would of starved our first year of marriage. Seriously.

So, since I was off yesterday in celabration of Martin Luther King and had the extra time, I decided I would make this...



~Cornish Hens
~Stuffing
~Mashed Potatoes with Gravy
~Green Bean Casserole

I was so proud of my menu, until "Muscles" came in and said "Do you really expect us to eat baby chickens?" Ok, so much for some culture. All, I could envision was our last name being changed to the Clampetts!!



So, after a little convincing from "Big Daddy" and myself, we finally get "Muscles" to try it. And believe it or not, he seems to enjoy it. Which makes my heart smile. Until, "Miss Priss" walks in from work and I tell her that her plate is in the mircrowave and as she opens the door to the microwave and looks at her plate, she turns to me and says "We are having baby chickens?"

Look out Beverly Hills here we come.....

How Time Flies...

It still amazes me how time flies!! Friday was my daughter's 17th birthday (my son's was just a few months ago...he turned 15) and it makes me teary-eyed just thinking how the time seems to slip away from you. Just yesterday they were 4 and 2 and my husband and I were their "everything". They still called us Mommy and Daddy. We were still "cool" and they actually WANTED to be around us. Now, they are 17 and 15 and sometimes can fit us into their busy schedules. LOL!! No, seriously I can't complain....I have two WONDERFUL children and I cherish them EVERYDAY!!!! Love you guys!!